When we got out of a bad situation people applauded. But the same set of people looked away while we were going through shit. Guess that is the way the cookie crumbles. We win some and lose some. Different set of rules for different situations. Some are with us and some aren’t. Personally, I prefer the ones who stayed away (they were never missed). The ones who suck up after things settle down with their pearls of wisdom are so damn annoying. All I want to do is tell them to bugger off. And believe me I do, and so should you me dahlings.
Another set of people are the ones who think that they are friends of yours because of a common denominator. Adding a friend on a social networking site may appear cool. But in reality, the ones who friended you earlier, ignore you in real time. I have been a recipient of these social graces where people who are a part of this so called friendship circle pretend that they haven’t seen me. I have fumed in the past, ranted and raved, but realized that this is the way life is. After all, there was no one with me while I was hurting, so why should they be with me while I am happy?
Another one that strikes me as being plain rude are people who have come over to our place, enjoyed our hospitality but ignore us in public. Shame on you! These individuals (who are a part of a certain circle) deem it fit to endorse that that they have rubble in their eyes or are plain blind. I was with a relative the other day and lo and behold the same thing happened. I was yakking away on the phone so didn’t care. But what stopped these people from acknowledging the lady I was with, eh? They had a meal with her a couple of weeks ago, enjoyed intelligent conversation, blah blah…but ignored her nonetheless. These very people swear that they follow religious teachings to the letter. They go to every peace march, rally for a cause (among a trusted network mind you), endorse charitable work, take part in spiritual activities, act concerned all the time, etc. But when they have to put their money where their mouths are – they are gone in 60 seconds!
Hey guys, I am not saying that I am any different. I am pretty similar – because people have made me this way. I have learned and have come out of this experience a doctor of sorts having earned a PhD in the practice of avoidance. I have braved the wrath of a select crowd by ignoring them. I choose to live life on my own terms. I accept friend requests from people who are actually friends. I eliminate those who do not matter, have not mattered and will not matter. In the long run, I have fought the fight, continue to do so and get on with a fun filled life away from nit picking and back biting.
At the end of it all, getting to know the adversary really pays. You know me dahlings, you know it – because you have also been a recipient of this award. Or perhaps you endorse this behavior. Whatever the case may be, the bottom line is to figure out if you want to be a part of this racket or not. What I mean by ‘this’ is simple – if people do not want to be with you, great. Move on. If they want to be with you, that is also great. The ones who matter are always going to be with you anyway. There is nothing sweeter than a life of serenity and calm without nasty folk in your network. Be brave and move on to a life of happy ever after with fun, fortune and fortitude. These three ‘F’s’ always win. F the rest!
Profoundly yours…
XoXo
Another set of people are the ones who think that they are friends of yours because of a common denominator. Adding a friend on a social networking site may appear cool. But in reality, the ones who friended you earlier, ignore you in real time. I have been a recipient of these social graces where people who are a part of this so called friendship circle pretend that they haven’t seen me. I have fumed in the past, ranted and raved, but realized that this is the way life is. After all, there was no one with me while I was hurting, so why should they be with me while I am happy?
Another one that strikes me as being plain rude are people who have come over to our place, enjoyed our hospitality but ignore us in public. Shame on you! These individuals (who are a part of a certain circle) deem it fit to endorse that that they have rubble in their eyes or are plain blind. I was with a relative the other day and lo and behold the same thing happened. I was yakking away on the phone so didn’t care. But what stopped these people from acknowledging the lady I was with, eh? They had a meal with her a couple of weeks ago, enjoyed intelligent conversation, blah blah…but ignored her nonetheless. These very people swear that they follow religious teachings to the letter. They go to every peace march, rally for a cause (among a trusted network mind you), endorse charitable work, take part in spiritual activities, act concerned all the time, etc. But when they have to put their money where their mouths are – they are gone in 60 seconds!
Hey guys, I am not saying that I am any different. I am pretty similar – because people have made me this way. I have learned and have come out of this experience a doctor of sorts having earned a PhD in the practice of avoidance. I have braved the wrath of a select crowd by ignoring them. I choose to live life on my own terms. I accept friend requests from people who are actually friends. I eliminate those who do not matter, have not mattered and will not matter. In the long run, I have fought the fight, continue to do so and get on with a fun filled life away from nit picking and back biting.
At the end of it all, getting to know the adversary really pays. You know me dahlings, you know it – because you have also been a recipient of this award. Or perhaps you endorse this behavior. Whatever the case may be, the bottom line is to figure out if you want to be a part of this racket or not. What I mean by ‘this’ is simple – if people do not want to be with you, great. Move on. If they want to be with you, that is also great. The ones who matter are always going to be with you anyway. There is nothing sweeter than a life of serenity and calm without nasty folk in your network. Be brave and move on to a life of happy ever after with fun, fortune and fortitude. These three ‘F’s’ always win. F the rest!
Profoundly yours…
XoXo
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