Ok, so I get it, there are a good many people who have a problem with being nice. What can they do when all that comes out of their mouths are foul sayings and terrible verbiage? Sarcasm intended. What gets to me are people who go the entire hog with not a care about the constant hurt they dish out. If the roles are reversed I wonder how they will take it!
Many years ago, while having a discussion with a person who was a part of my life, I was stunned into silence with profanities and abuses that were so disgusting and shocking. I had no idea about what to say or do next and choose the path of silence instead. After all, what can one say when nastiness is a part of an individual’s mental make-up?
A friend had to deal with practically everyone dismissing her because of her skin tone. People used every excuse possible, but she knew deep down… Initially she was upset but she realized that there were plenty of fish out there. Unfortunately, life was not a bed of roses in her personal space as the spouse preferred fair too!
I was at a coffee shop sometime ago and overheard two people cribbing about their jobs. After a while when things got mundane they went the full hog talking dirty about anyone and everyone at their workplace. The dribble was oozing out and they started tearing people to shreds without a care in the world. Common friends joined in and the bitching was at a feverish pitch tearing a particular colleague to shreds. To their luck, the person they were talking about happened to come in and went over to their table. But they didn’t notice her as they were so deeply engrossed in their ripping. When they did realize that she was a part of the group, they tried to change the topic, but…the damage was done. She left in tears. They went after her to apologize, I suppose. But can one take back harsh words?
There are many who choose this line of being mean and nasty and while their words strike a chord of humor, it is really incorrect to do this all the time. Before you know it callousness becomes a part of the aura and just go with the flow is the chorus. Time to get rid of this shit… and if one cannot be nice just shut the trap up.
Thoughts?
Many years ago, while having a discussion with a person who was a part of my life, I was stunned into silence with profanities and abuses that were so disgusting and shocking. I had no idea about what to say or do next and choose the path of silence instead. After all, what can one say when nastiness is a part of an individual’s mental make-up?
A friend had to deal with practically everyone dismissing her because of her skin tone. People used every excuse possible, but she knew deep down… Initially she was upset but she realized that there were plenty of fish out there. Unfortunately, life was not a bed of roses in her personal space as the spouse preferred fair too!
I was at a coffee shop sometime ago and overheard two people cribbing about their jobs. After a while when things got mundane they went the full hog talking dirty about anyone and everyone at their workplace. The dribble was oozing out and they started tearing people to shreds without a care in the world. Common friends joined in and the bitching was at a feverish pitch tearing a particular colleague to shreds. To their luck, the person they were talking about happened to come in and went over to their table. But they didn’t notice her as they were so deeply engrossed in their ripping. When they did realize that she was a part of the group, they tried to change the topic, but…the damage was done. She left in tears. They went after her to apologize, I suppose. But can one take back harsh words?
There are many who choose this line of being mean and nasty and while their words strike a chord of humor, it is really incorrect to do this all the time. Before you know it callousness becomes a part of the aura and just go with the flow is the chorus. Time to get rid of this shit… and if one cannot be nice just shut the trap up.
Thoughts?
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