Does it pay to settle scores with people who really don’t want to be a part of one’s life?
Sometime ago, I received a call from a very close friend who was sobbing uncontrollably. Drove across to meet her and I was disappointed to hear that her family, who she loved, was treating her like a misfit.
“Misfit? Why?” I asked.
“Actually I don’t know if that is the word. They are so into themselves that I would rather not award them names,” she cried bitterly.
Knowing how much she had done for her family and relatives I was really disgusted at their attitude. They are a bunch of jerks I surmised and advised her to talk it out with them.
“How many times should I?” she asked.
“Do what honey? Ask them or tell them.”
“Well both really. I have put my feelings out there for them to know but somehow or the other they just cannot be bothered,” she sobbed.
Hugging her and ensuring that she has us always, I filled her in about more interesting topics along with letting her know that her family was probably not really aware of her feelings completely.
“They know everything, but just don’t seem to want me in their fold.”
“Well if that is the case then, so be it; you don’t really to be in their face or them in yours anyways, do you?”
“No …”
“Then let go…”
So she did (after a long time) and all I can say is she is happier than she has ever been.
Letting go is really a difficult decision, but once you do it, you feel free. When someone doesn’t really want you on their map, choose a different route. Relatives or friends who aren’t really keen on having you around are really not worth your emotions and time. Accept the reality that no one is indispensible – these folk aren’t is what I told her.
Alternatively, people who ignore you but try to sweet talk you into the reasons why they did (ignore you), are totally putrid. You are better off not having them as a part of your circle. What say?
Sometime ago, I received a call from a very close friend who was sobbing uncontrollably. Drove across to meet her and I was disappointed to hear that her family, who she loved, was treating her like a misfit.
“Misfit? Why?” I asked.
“Actually I don’t know if that is the word. They are so into themselves that I would rather not award them names,” she cried bitterly.
Knowing how much she had done for her family and relatives I was really disgusted at their attitude. They are a bunch of jerks I surmised and advised her to talk it out with them.
“How many times should I?” she asked.
“Do what honey? Ask them or tell them.”
“Well both really. I have put my feelings out there for them to know but somehow or the other they just cannot be bothered,” she sobbed.
Hugging her and ensuring that she has us always, I filled her in about more interesting topics along with letting her know that her family was probably not really aware of her feelings completely.
“They know everything, but just don’t seem to want me in their fold.”
“Well if that is the case then, so be it; you don’t really to be in their face or them in yours anyways, do you?”
“No …”
“Then let go…”
So she did (after a long time) and all I can say is she is happier than she has ever been.
Letting go is really a difficult decision, but once you do it, you feel free. When someone doesn’t really want you on their map, choose a different route. Relatives or friends who aren’t really keen on having you around are really not worth your emotions and time. Accept the reality that no one is indispensible – these folk aren’t is what I told her.
Alternatively, people who ignore you but try to sweet talk you into the reasons why they did (ignore you), are totally putrid. You are better off not having them as a part of your circle. What say?
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