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The Divorced Mind

When a relationship goes bust and you are suddenly alone without the significant other, the path of traveling single is extremely scary. Emotions play havoc with your mind. Friends are nowhere to be found. Some family members ignore you worried that you are a bad omen or whatever. Your entire personality takes a beating. Professional and personal life is a mess. Gossip mills churn like crazy making you a social outcast…. the list goes on. But no matter how bleak the situation looks like now, this is just a stage like any other. And always remember - God is with you every step of the way and you can and will get by.

Here are some pointers to help you move on:

• Accept the fact that the situation has changed and get on with life

• A change of surroundings maybe in order (if possible)

• Realize that the past is over and done with. It does not influence the present nor destroy the future.

• A one night stand isn’t going to get to you anywhere except a feeling of revulsion and remorse

• Join suitable groups that help rather than hurt or seek out a good counselor

• Choose friends wisely and speak up if you notice you are being short changed

• Get a good career and work towards a healthy goal

• Keep your mind, body and soul clean and eradicate any negative thoughts

• If you are a gossip mongers dream so be it, let the mills churn, meanness never wins in the end

• Never latch on to the first person who pays attention to you. Being needy must be nipped in the bud. Your need is to be self reliant.

• If the ex has moved on to another partner, so be it. Do not jump into a relationship just to appear “content”. You will hurt yourself in the long run.

• If and when you are ready to get into a new relationship, you must be mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically free of old “ghosts”

• Get on with life by set positive and realistic goals

All in all, remember you are a capable beautiful individual. Even though the relationship is over, it is not the end of the world. One door has closed many more will open. Keep your options alive; smile and remember to smell the roses, ditch the burnt coffee!

XoXo

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